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  • Aug. 3rd, 2008 at 8:57 AM
Atul candy
... in our household – Atul has been sleeping by himself on his bed in his room for the past 9 nights. Until last Friday the joke was, it would be easier to renovate our bedroom to fit a king size bed than to transition him to a bed of his own. But a small window of opportunity opened up last Friday evening when I popped my routine question to him, “Tuls do you want to sleep by yourself tonight”, to which he wavered for a second, and with great reluctance replied, “Can I keep the car lights on?”. Astonished at the change of mind, Arvind and I exchanged quick glances and came up with our responses, “sure kannama”, “if you want you can take as many toys as you want”. So armed with a bucket full toys, we marched to his room knowing that this could very well turn out to be a flop show, nevertheless a baby step towards the goal. We tucked him, and let him know that we are proud of him. Then the reality of the situation sunk in, and he said, “I am scared that the carnivores will come and eat me. Will you please sleep here with me”. To which we responded with one of our slogans, “Have no fear, appa and amma are here”. We assured him that appa will be guarding the downstairs to make sure no carnivores enter the house, and amma will be in appa-amma room to guard the upstairs. We also gently reminded him of the Arthur and DW story in which DW was initially scared to sleep on her own bed, but found it fun after the first few days. With this Arvind and I dispersed to our turfs to guard our little prince from the carnivores. Atul and I continued to talk, as we always did when we slept together, except that now I was not next to him with a small corridor in between us. He told me he liked me, and I told him we loved him. He told me he missed me and wanted to give a quick hug, I told him, yes he could, but after that he has to go back to his room and try to get some sleep. So this back and forth dialog continued for the next half hour may be, and eventually he dosed off. And then I rushed downstairs to jubilantly report to Arvind that, “He did it. We did it”.


The transition is a big change not only for Atul but also for us. Co-sleeping is such fun. To be physically close to Atul, exchanging stories, having our zen moments after a stressful day was something that we have so cherished in spite of all the kicks and body aches that are the side effects when two adults and a pre-schooler sleep on a queen size bed. Yet, deep down I nursed a twinge of guilt that perhaps we were not inculcating good sleeping habits, as it was evident that he woke up the second he was left alone. So all along we took turns to make sure that one of us was by his side. Advocates of co-sleeping would say that he would eventually outgrow that need with time. I know he would, I did when I was a kid and I know a thousand others that did. But still I had to try it out to assuage my guilty consciousness. So when Atul comes back at 2:00 in the night, declaring that he is all done sleeping on his own for the night, we welcome him with open arms! A win-win situation in my mind.

 

Note: In case you were wondering why Atul referred to carnivores and not monsters, according to his reasoning a monster eats people and animals, so a monster cannot be a herbivore. Thus monster=carnivore. 

I got an award!!!

  • May. 18th, 2008 at 5:12 AM
squirrel
“I got an award, I got an award” is the song humming in my head (and probably my hubby's as well, considering the gazillion times I made a mention about it all evening yesterday ) ever since I read Laksh's blog post passing the “You make my day” award to me and a couple of other bloggers. A wagon load of “Thank Yous” Laksh, it's the highlight of my weekend, and a milestone for my blog! Touched, honored, flattered and motivated are few of the adjectives that I would use to describe the way I feel upon receiving this award.

That being said, it's my turn to spread the happiness around. I would like to dedicate and pass this award to those of you that leave your footprint on this blog. While blogging is a hobby that I indulge in purely for personal pleasure, it thrills me every single time I see a LiveJournal comment email  sitting in my inbox (informing me who has commented and what the comment is). The extrinsic value for my blog comes from the comments that it receives from its readers. If you are someone who comments here often or even left a one-off comment in the past, please know that you truly make my day, and to all of you, I pass this, “You make me day” award. You are one of the reasons I want to write more. You are one of the reasons the blog is alive. Thank you!


 

All about Atul

  • Aug. 22nd, 2007 at 11:41 PM
Atul candy

Ever since we moved to the new house, the amount of quality time that I spend with Atul has been trending downwards :(, which explains the lack of updates on his front in the blog. So much has been happening on Atul's front that I can fill an 80-page notebook with anecdotes on him.  Presenting the abridged version under the cut :-)

 



 

 

 


 

 

I am so glad I am preserving some of Atul's growing up experiences here. One day Arvind and I will probably be turning these web pages with Atul by our side :-)

Feb. 16th, 2006

  • 2:11 AM
squirrel
Atul is sick. His teacher called me up at work to say that he has had diarrhea three times in two hours. We'll know the story at his doctor's appointment tomorrow.

Atul gave subtle clues on his impending sickness over the last couple of days. Although I had a suspicion that something was off with the little one, I brushed it aside thinking that the changes were behaviorial and that he was merely testing his boundaries.

Raising a child definitely gets complicated as he grows up. Before, if Atu didn't eat well it was either because he was not hungry or he was sick. But now, there are other dimensions to it: I offered him peas when he was expecting squash, playing seems to be more fun than eating, sitting in high chair is not something that he is interested in etc. etc. Atul has probably learnt that he can make choices in life!

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